Its been a year now??
Toby
Its been a year since your original post, and you're still getting advice. Did you do your CBT and test? How did they go?
For what its worth, I had a wife who hated me having a bike - we negotiated and she ended up getting her own licence.
She hated me going off alone - we negotiated and she started travelling with me (a different experience).
She hated many other things I did/do - I asked what she had ever seen in me. I think she was one of those people who see a person as a blank canvas - "I could turn him into something I really like". As I was/am happy with what I am this grew tiring. Our marriage didn't last.
The present Mrs MarkE accepts me for what I am. I know there are things she doesn't like, but she is willing to accept them, and I am in the same position with her. I try to be diplomatic, but the only restrictions I accept or impose are (1) monogamy, (2) honesty and (3) no surprises. It works for us.
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