The men in your life.
 

Hey girls, I'm new here, haven't done a major trip yet, but am planning to. Just a question though. I just split from my partner of three years. :( We're both into motorcycles, but there are issues that can't be resolved and we decided that the mature thing to do would be to go our own separate ways. So now I'm facing everthing on my own for the first time. :helpsmilie:
You ladies that ride solo, do you have a companion waiting at home for you, or do you choose to be single, and how do you find riding solo? Do you get lonely? Thanks in advance. bier

Hi Sirius-Star

Welcome to the Hubb.

I am in a similar position to you, I split from my non-biking partner nearly 2 years ago, and have never looked back (bikes wasn't the only reason!)

I do worry occasionally about being lonely, or get a little jealous when I see a couple sharing a lovely moment together, but I also remember all the wonderful things I get to see and do that only came about from me being solo.

:-)

I ride mostly solo, especially on longer trips ..including 3 months away from home while travelling through Mexico and Central America.

Yes, I have someone waiting at home for me and yes it can get lonely at times. But there are many benefits to riding solo and each individual needs to decide what works for them. I'm someone who needs and craves a lot of "alone" time, so solo riding and travelling works for me.

There are also some opportunities to ride with my partner who has gotten in to biking herself 2 years ago. Those rides are a lot of fun as well and I'm always glad when she comes along ...in spite of liking and needing my solo rides as well.


...Michelle
www.scrabblebiker.com

Scrabblebiker
 

Michelle ,,
It is very refreshing to see a biker ,, openly discussing one's sexual preference,,,
My hats off to you ,,
Perhaps,, this thread shoud be changed to ,, "Women Leaving Loved Ones Behind To Go Riding Solo" ,, :thumbup1:

I'd rather be loathed for who I am than liked/loved for something I'm not. Hence the openness. Think of it as a system that filters out the closed minded people from my life. Closed minded world travellers seems to be a bit of an oxymoron anyway.

:D

Besides, it would be disrespectful towards my partner to not acknowledge her as part of my life.


...Michelle
www.scrabblebiker.com

I travel solo a lot. But generally, on longer travels I am single. I love solo travel, especially as a woman for the openness it brings, and the people you meet. Being single, I felt, helped me be more in the moment and not wanting to be where I was not. I planned a solo bike trip of the Americas after touring Morrocco and Europe on the back with an ex boyfriend. He wasn't the one for me, but left me with a legacy for riding to explore. And so I planned and worked for this trip which I am now semi into (having ridden to Prudohe bay and back).

And your question on men. As I was 5 months from leaving I met a man- whom now I have fallen pretty deeply for. We both ride, but he cannot get away to join me on the trip. He has 2 huge beautiful dogs, has a mortgage, is halfway through a PHD and is busy with work. I cannot expect that he comes when I have worked my life around being transient, having no ties and being free. But here is the dilemma. Now I sit in his house, having postponed my trip south too many times, as I know 8 months away is a huge ask on a reasonably new relationship....and one I hope may last forever...

He is wonderful and encourages me to go- but to come back. We plan to meet for a week every few months along the trip, so I know that I will see him. But. At this point the only place I want to be is here with him. So I am.

Maybe for the best, my visa for the US runs out by the end of the month. so I am pushed to leave for now. I know I adore solo travel and the trip will be amazing. I know that while I would like to travel with him- the experience of being a girl on the road alone opens up so many more cultural experiences, so many more people are open to you , and you often get taken in by the women and get to see the lives they live. And on the road solo, I feel in my element. So I feel an amazing adventure coming up. But, I can't help but stall for now. I will go- as I must. But it is not without butterflies in my stomach.

For years women have demanded equality with men. However it seems that some just cant break free and be independent. Some seem very much in need of a man, and nothing has changed.

Really??
 

You won't be making any friends on here with comments like that mate...

Ditto. I agree with Pumbaa. As moderator here I thought to remove the not so nice comment about women, but then I thought the women in this forum are bigger than that and will ignore it.
If a dispute starts I will see....

Let's give people the benefit of the doubt.

Well you must feel free to do what you want. I expressed a polite view, and it hasnt changed.

As a service to everyone on here, please do not remove it. I for one, would like to know who to avoid while I'm out there travelling. What better way to weed out people by having them out in the open.

OK, back to what this site is all about. Motorcycles, bicycles, trucks and overland travel.

:mchappy:


...Michelle

another point of view
 

Hi Maria 41 and all, I feel at great risk posting here, but I want to share something I just posted at the H U Bar

http://www.horizonsunlimited.com/hub...wanted-65977-2

Thread is "Female Companion Wanted" by Stormtrooper

My response is titled "Dear Stormtrooper et al" and I thought, just perhaps, maybe, some of you reading here might enjoy my point of view on page 2 of the thread....

xfiltrate

This is an excellent idea Mich, I heartily agree with your idea, and your post should remain.

Ok back to what the site is about. Sharing views and having them discussed in a civilised fashion.:scooter:

Dick, what has the desire for relationships got to do with equality? And while yes I agree some women seem very much in need of a man, it goes the same that some men seem very much in need of a woman. One of the joys in life is that we are all different.

But Dick if your comment was related in some way to mine, you have no idea who, you or what you are speaking about. :taz:

Sirius-star, I am on the road solo now, and yes I get lonely at times, mostly because I don't speak very good Spanish. My blog is at http://www.letterstocurlyflat.blogspot.com

What comment of yours? I honestly don´t know what you´re talking about!
Your other comments are so off track, IMO. :eek3: But that´s OK. :thumbup1:

¡ Hasta luego y buen viaje......!