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Hey girls, I'm new here, haven't done a major trip yet, but am planning to. Just a question though. I just split from my partner of three years. We're both into motorcycles, but there are issues that can't be resolved and we decided that the mature thing to do would be to go our own separate ways. So now I'm facing everthing on my own for the first time.
You ladies that ride solo, do you have a companion waiting at home for you, or do you choose to be single, and how do you find riding solo? Do you get lonely? Thanks in advance.
Hi Sirius Star, ladies, curious men...

I've had trips ranging from 4 days to 4 weeks (not long by some standards I know) and have have travelled with boyfriend, solo with bf at home, solo SOLO, and with friends. Some of these trips have been better than others, but most have been great.

Different situations work better for some people, and you'll probably find out what works best for you when you give it a try. What I will say is it's better to go do something you want to do on your own, than not do it at all. Don't let travelling alone stop you if there's someplace you want to go.

Sometimes I'm chilled out, and happy I go with others plans. Sometimes I want to do my own thing. Sometimes I've been very greatful to have friends to hand, when things haven't quite gone to plan.

So, my honest opinion - I'd love to travel with someone else to share the experience, but if I have to go on my own then I will do that too
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Most of my trips have been solo. My longest trips have been 8 months, solo.

I enjoy travelling solo. I think most of the time it is easier, you can set your own schedule and change your mind as you go. People look out for you and are more likely to come up and talk to you.

Before my first big trip I read this:
Foxy Old Woman's Guide to Traveling Alone
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I travel solo a lot. But generally, on longer travels I am single. I love solo travel, especially as a woman for the openness it brings, and the people you meet. Being single, I felt, helped me be more in the moment and not wanting to be where I was not. I planned a solo bike trip of the Americas after touring Morrocco and Europe on the back with an ex boyfriend. He wasn't the one for me, but left me with a legacy for riding to explore. And so I planned and worked for this trip which I am now semi into (having ridden to Prue bay and back).

And your question on men. As I was 5 months from leaving I met a man- whom now I have fallen pretty deeply for. We both ride, but he cannot get away to join me on the trip. He has 2 huge beautiful dogs, has a mortgage, is halfway through a PHD and is busy with work. I cannot expect that he comes when I have worked my life around being transient, having no ties and being free. But here is the dilemma. Now I sit in his house, having postponed my trip south too many times, as I know 8 months away is a huge ask on a reasonably new relationship....and one I hope may last forever...

He is wonderful and encourages me to go- but to come back. We plan to meet for a week every few months along the trip, so I know that I will see him. But. At this point the only place I want to be is here with him. So I am.

Maybe for the best, my visa for the US runs out by the end of the month. so I am pushed to leave for now. I know I adore solo travel and the trip will be amazing. I know that while I would like to travel with him- the experience of being a girl on the road alone opens up so many more cultural experiences, so many more people are open to you , and you often get taken in by the women and get to see the lives they live. And on the road solo, I feel in my element. So I feel an amazing adventure coming up. But, I can't help but stall for now. I will go- as I must. But it is not without butterflies in my stomach.
Hi just my 10p worth Lois Price only met Austin just prior to doing her african travel, he insited she still go & do it as she will be kicking her self, he waited & met her at the end.
as a ex brit solder I was used to being away from my GF then later wife, like everyone some times I felt lonley other times ok, so i suggest you talk it through & go for it.

I see you did go for it hope he is waiting for you.

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For years women have demanded equality with men. However it seems that some just cant break free and be independent. Some seem very much in need of a man, and nothing has changed.
I get the impression this may have been lost in translation, but I can see what he is saying on the flip side, my Ex hated bike unless sunny summer day & a stop at a pub for luncheon!! not for me so i know not so unusuall but some men do like to go on there own or as groups & a few do go out on there own.
I am happy to say my new GF loves the bike just done her CBT and is desperate to pass her test as she wants us to do a RTW together.
as an old English saying is what goes around comes around.
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[QUOTE=Selous;399759]Hi just my 10p worth Lois Price only met Austin just prior to doing her african travel, he insited she still go & do it as she will be kicking her self, he waited & met her at the end.
as a ex brit solder I was used to being away from my GF then later wife, like everyone some times I felt lonley other times ok, so i suggest you talk it through & go for it.

I see you did go for it hope he is waiting for you.

We laughed as I left that he was my Austin. And just so you know, he is waiting for me. We just had a lovely catch up in Oaxaca for a week and some further planned meetings on route. So I consider it all working out quite well.
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For years women have demanded equality with men. However it seems that some just cant break free and be independent. Some seem very much in need of a man, and nothing has changed.


I think we're all being a little harsh.... I agree 'to a point' with his comment.

He did say "SOME"

Indeed, some of my very best friends are women and a few of them openly admit that they NEED a man. Financially and emotionally. Just like I have male friends who NEED a woman for whatever reason.

On the flip side, there are also many men out there who are supported by their partners. Ego probably gets in the way of hearing about it.

My girlfriend earns about 10x what I do. I think it's great !! It's nice to be treated now and again She financially supports our lifestyle, I contribute in other ways. It balances out.

I don't think it's a matter of sexism or Male chauvinism but just a case that many people NEED another person in their life. Male or female, black or white, animal or vegetable.

It is true that there is a lot of work to be some in the work of equality. Especially in other less liberal countries. Just travel around the Arab world. They walk there woman behind them like animals. It's horrendous.
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On the flip side, there are also many men out there who are supported by their partners. Ego probably gets in the way of hearing about it.

My girlfriend earns about 10x what I do. I think it's great !! It's nice to be treated now and again She financially supports our lifestyle, I contribute in other ways. It balances out.
My wife also earns about about 10x what I do and we have no problems with it. It's just the way things are these days. The only time she complains is when I want to buy another bike
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My wife also earns about about 10x what I do and we have no problems with it. It's just the way things are these days. The only time she complains is when I want to buy another bike
Mine makes me buy my own toys.. .Very frustrating.. What happened to equality ???

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so that's how you finances all your escapades Ted do tell
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I wish life was that easy

I have to pay for all my own travelling. She pays for the flat that we practically share and a lot of the food. I do all the labour work, housework, fix her car, decorate, etc etc.

I'm pretty much a bit of a 'Man Friday'....

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Hi Sirius-Star

Welcome to the Hubb.

I am in a similar position to you, I split from my non-biking partner nearly 2 years ago, and have never looked back (bikes wasn't the only reason!)

I do worry occasionally about being lonely, or get a little jealous when I see a couple sharing a lovely moment together, but I also remember all the wonderful things I get to see and do that only came about from me being solo.

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I think Fern is right. When you're going on a trip alone, you will experience many moments you wouldn't have come to know with someone you more or less concentrated on, you know what I mean? I've had some wonderful times alone since I was completely free to do/meet/see whatever I wanted without compromising - can be a great feeling of freedom if you ask me
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I am in the process of planning a possible trip to America to do Route 66 on my own. My boyfriend has done a lot of world wide travel both solo and with pillion but I really want to ride myself. I've recently lost my mother and I had cared for her for many years and I think it is now my time.

I quite like the idea of me making my own decisions e.g. if my bum is starting to ache, I can stop for 10 minutes without worrying that I am holding other people up! Also, it I particularly like somewhere I can stay longer and vice versa get the hell out of there if I don't like it.

It's all pie in the sky at the moment, but hopefully I can actually make this happen.
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I love travelling solo!

Any time I feel a slight twinge of wanting to share my life I only have to look at a couple arguing, (never hard to find,) how cruel they are to each other, how ugly they are while they're fighting and I realise how much better it is to travel alone.
If there is a problem I fix it, if I take a wrong turn I correct it (no shouting) and my timing is my choice.

The only trouble is climbing is limited cos of the techniqual requirement for someone at the other end of the rope.

and Dick the truth is "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle!"
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