Go Back   Horizons Unlimited - The HUBB > All Miscellaneous questions > Women's Topics
Women's Topics For questions which are specific to women, including travel-related challenges to do with menstruation, contraception, she-wees, pros and cons of riding pillion, women travelling solo, safety concerns, etc. This forum is open to all. Please post questions which are of interest to both genders in the relevant forum to get a quicker response.
Photo by Ellen Delis, Lagunas Ojos del Campo, Antofalla, Catamarca

I haven't been everywhere...
but it's on my list!


Photo by Ellen Delis,
Lagunas Ojos del Campo,
Antofalla, Catamarca



Like Tree45Likes

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 1 Feb 2014
Tiffany's Avatar
Gold Member
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Mar 2001
Location: Lands End, Cornwall, UK
Posts: 675
Thumbs up Dating Women who Travel

I've just been sent this (by my ex-boyfriend!)
It certainly rings true for me in many respects and so I thought I'd share it and see what you think

Date a Girl Who Travels.
She’s the one who doesn’t think twice about hair straighteners and curling irons. She’s content with her waves and braids and she definitely doesn’t spend hours in front of a mirror. It’s one less thing to not think about when she’s not planning her next day. While others are getting ready for the night, she’s off seizing the day.
Date a girl who travels. She will introduce you to a new way to experience life. The weekend routine, the distraction from the everyday, will not be necessary. You will be constantly exposed to new fantasies and adventures.
You will not have to worry about impressing her with your car and corporate job, and you most certainly won’t have to shower her with jewelry from Tiffany’s. She values time over money and would rather have a story than a necklace.
Date a girl who travels because she will allow you to leave your comfort zone. She won’t allow you to be bored because she’s always finding the road less travelled.
Chances are, she doesn’t want the life her friends have. She’s a dreamer who is unafraid to make those dreams a reality. She’s a freelancer and you will quickly become a muse to her art. She will show you a side of yourself that you often run from. She will not just listen to you complain about your job; she will try to show you how to change it.
Date a girl who travels. She’s the one who is open about her mistakes for the story and who will appreciate your mistakes as well. She may not use her college degree, but she accepts knowledge from a peaceful and unique point of view. She is open-minded and trusts the world to take care of her and does not feel the need to become a slave to someone else’s dream. She is accepting of what life gives and recognizes when life leads her to a person worth loving.
Date a girl who travels because she knows how to relinquish control. She recognizes that dreams change and will change her plans for the chance to love. She is friends with herself and knows how to follow her heart. She recognizes the beauty of uncertainty, and will plunge headfirst into the world of the unknown without a second thought. She will give herself to a dream without hesitation.
Date a girl who travels because she knows how to be alone. She doesn’t need you to entertain her, and she’s confident in her choices. She trusts herself and she will not hold back in love when she feels that love is right.
Date a girl who travels because she is not afraid to be herself. She is respectful of others, but more importantly is respectful to herself. She will defend what she believes is right, and you will soon find yourself doing the same.
She will never need you; making the relationship you build one based on choice, not obligation. She is independent and she understands that there are some dreams you must chase alone.
She is constantly meeting new people and trusts you to do the same. She will nourish your dreams and will expect the same in return. She will never hold you back.


It came from here
https://medium.com/lets-get-a-coffee/b14a05920f6f

There is also one entitled "Don't Date a Girl who Travels" but it's not a negative one.
__________________
Tiffany
On the road from...I'm not sure any more
http://www.tiffanystravels.co.uk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAUhV1r-kUo
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 1 Feb 2014
Registered Users
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Wessex, UK
Posts: 2,136
There are some great words of wisdom here as well.

Lena Desmond: Date a Boy Who Travels
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 10 Mar 2015
Registered User
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 377
Dating Men who Travel

That is amazing! I always feel that travelling on a bike puts women off
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 10 Mar 2015
*Touring Ted*'s Avatar
Contributing Member
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Wirral, England.
Posts: 5,656
I tend to encourage women to travel.

After a while being with me, they want to up and leave. As far away as possible.

__________________
Did some trips.
Rode some bikes.
Fix them for a living.
Can't say anymore.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 15 Jan 2016
Registered Users
New on the HUBB
 
Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 10
Quote:
Originally Posted by *Touring Ted* View Post
I tend to encourage women to travel.

After a while being with me, they want to up and leave. As far away as possible.

hehehehe ... most of the guys I date make me want to travel. Alone
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 23 Jan 2016
Gold Member
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Cambridge, UK
Posts: 672
I find it quite hard to meet men, when I tell them about my travels they sometimes seem overwhelmed..

The situation makes me somewhat picky.. if they are not into motorbikes or travel, then I don't seem to be interested.
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 23 Jan 2016
Registered User
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 377
^^^ Ditto
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 24 Jan 2016
*Touring Ted*'s Avatar
Contributing Member
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Wirral, England.
Posts: 5,656
A lasso women from my bike..
__________________
Did some trips.
Rode some bikes.
Fix them for a living.
Can't say anymore.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 29 Jan 2016
lorraine's Avatar
Registered Users
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: Definitely Nomadic
Posts: 523
Men initially respond to my travel stuff by either being intimidated, naysaying or, 'Oh yes, I can match that!' Then after a few years they want the white picket fence. I have a theory about this but I'll save it for my film. ;-) Stay tuned... currently in Uganda.
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 7 Apr 2016
Registered Users
HUBB regular
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 41
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fern View Post
I find it quite hard to meet men, when I tell them about my travels they sometimes seem overwhelmed..

The situation makes me somewhat picky.. if they are not into motorbikes or travel, then I don't seem to be interested.
SO true. Also, what Lorraine said, about men being either intimidated, disbelieving or trying to match you. I pretty much gave up by now
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 10 Apr 2016
Lowrider1263's Avatar
Registered Users
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Sunderland
Posts: 254
I find ladies on bikes is very sexy, well my misses anyway, I've never dated a girl that traveled a lot on a bike, I did date a girl that loved traveling she ended up meeting someone else on her travels,,,just as well,,,,,as I meet my misses,,,
She loves the back of the bike not that keen to have her own bike,
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 10 Apr 2016
Contributing Vendor
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
Posts: 944
Lorraine's Fil

Hello U-gan-da !!!

Looking forward, very much, to your film. When, how can I find it? Title?

70 years old this year with no white picket fences or desire for same in sight or in dreams. rosa del desierto - much younger, and I will ride it out together... Currently riding Mexico, en route to Spain. C- yaaaaaa

xfiltrate
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 20 Apr 2016
Registered Users
New on the HUBB
 
Join Date: Aug 2014
Location: West Sussex
Posts: 4
Sounds like my wife! Backpacked around India, north and south, and has been to places I've never heard of before... then I introduced her to bikes

Although it's a Honda ST1300 and a bit of a barge we've done our wandering around Europe for the past seven years. She loves being on the back, and I couldn't get her to take up another form of transport with a big stick!

Packs light, doesn't do make-up, and can be ready to go out in 10 minutes flat... my kind of girl.

There's nothing ever wrong with a girl who travels
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old 23 Apr 2016
Contributing Vendor
Veteran HUBBer
 
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
Posts: 944
What to look for in a woman who travels

1. Communication: is her rhythm of communication similar to yours?
People process (inflow and out flow communication) at different speeds,
perhaps the greatest cause of frustration and "divorce" is when two people
in an intimate realtionship have very different rhythms of communication.
Those who inflow and outflow slowly are no less intelligent or able than those
who process quickly, but select a mate with a rhythm of communication similar to yours. Life and your realtionship will be much more fun.

2. Agreements: verify a potential mate can make and KEEP agreements. We are all, well, mostly all good people, so if we make an agreement with a lover/partner and then break that agreement, we justify this afront by discovering or inventing her/his mistakes or short commings. This only to jutify the breaking of an agreeent.

3.Experience: the old ledgend that "opposites attract" is incomplete. It should read, "opposites attract divorce." Make sure she has similar experience levels to yours. Steve 974 describes a woman who travels like him and he is a happy man. If you have battled your way through to post graduate degrees, hooking up with a high school drop out, with very notable exceptions - like true genius - probably won't work. Because you are reading here, you ride or will be riding motorcycles, so select a woman who rides or wants to learn to ride - pillion or pilot. Steve 974 in previous post really shines a positive light on levels of experience.

4. Emotions: wanted or not, we all exhibit emotions, this is part of being human, we share an emotional facade hopefully appropriate for each situation. Anger, when appropriate, fear, when appropriate etc etc... but each of us has an emotion that we hang out in more often than all the others. Let's say you are pretty much
bored all the time, then select a woman who is also pretty much bored all the time and you two will see the world through the curtain of boredom. Or, better select a woman who is interested in everything, - this is a better emotion than boredom and she will help you out of your boredom. What not to do is - if you are chronically interested in life is to hook up with a woman who is chronically in grief over some past pain, etc. ect. ect.

True example: years ago when I lived in Flagstaff, Arizona, I went into the Museum Club bar commonly called the "Zoo Club" - I was very attracted to a barmaid who worked behind the bar. I sat at the bar next to an older cowboy, complete with cowboy hat, boots, western shirt and I suspected he was carrying.
Not long after, I heard the cowboy speaking to the barmaid in very anger tones, explaining how "pissed off" he was with his wife and at his boss and that his kids were worthless, at that moment a middle aged woman burst through the door and clobbered him in the cowboy hat with her purse. She knocked him off his barstool and grabbed him by the scruff of his neck and hauled him out the door.
I was shocked, but my favorite barmaid learned over the bar and said, "don't worry about it, that happens all the time - they have been married 25 years, have 4 kids and will never divorce - you see, they are both very angry people and they understand each other. It is the bad boys who marry the good girls that get divorced. And, the good boys who marry the bad girls get divorced. But I have never heard of a good boy who married a good girl or a bad boy who marries a bad girl getting divorced."
I was astounded by this simple wisdom shared at the "Zoo Club" bar in Flagstaff, Arizona.

5. Comparable magnitude: Each of us have a soul. We are endowed with a big soul or little soul the difference is simple. The big souls have the philosophy that they will survive and help other survive even if they have to drag them along the the way. The little souls see anyone else's survival as a threat to their survival and covertly or overtly try to destroy others, physically or psychologically.
The very obvious message here is if you have a big soul, don't travel with anyone who has a very little soul.

Oh, this is also, my, and others advice for woman selecting men to travel or hook up with on a more permanent basis.

Ride hard, ride free
xfiltrate

rosa del desierto and I are once again at our ranch in Flagstaff, you'll stop by.

Last edited by xfiltrate; 23 Apr 2016 at 16:51.
Reply With Quote
  #15  
Old 25 Apr 2016
Registered Users
HUBB regular
 
Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: mostly Salford now
Posts: 95
Quote:
Originally Posted by Evergreen View Post
SO true. Also, what Lorraine said, about men being either intimidated, disbelieving or trying to match you. I pretty much gave up by now

mmmmm.... I am mid forties now, with child (8) and partner / wife (24 years) I am getting more adventurous and she is becoming less... especially when it comes to taking the little one. we all change at different times in our lives, at different rates and in different ways.....

Accommodating one anther amicably is an art form! I am still learning!

Don't give in !
Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 Registered Users and/or Members and 1 guests)
 

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
THAILAND - Travel advice (safety) kentfallen West and South Asia 1 30 Jan 2014 02:44
Adventure Travel Film Festival Australia - Bright Vic 24-26 Feb 2012 Adventure Travel Film Festival Australia HU Travellers Meetings - Australia 23 28 Nov 2012 06:04
Looking For Women Riders To Tell At Least Some of Their Story! gypsyprincess Women's Topics 0 9 Jun 2012 01:05
2012 Inspirational Travel Literature Awards - Nominate now mattcbf600 The HUBB PUB 2 15 Feb 2012 15:49
Global Giving Field visitor as you travel jcravens Make a Difference 0 11 Nov 2011 20:53

 
 

Announcements

Thinking about traveling? Not sure about the whole thing? Watch the HU Achievable Dream Video Trailers and then get ALL the information you need to get inspired and learn how to travel anywhere in the world!

Have YOU ever wondered who has ridden around the world? We did too - and now here's the list of Circumnavigators!
Check it out now
, and add your information if we didn't find you.

Next HU Eventscalendar

HU Event and other updates on the HUBB Forum "Traveller's Advisories" thread.
ALL Dates subject to change.

2024:

Add yourself to the Updates List for each event!

Questions about an event? Ask here

HUBBUK: info

See all event details

 
World's most listened to Adventure Motorbike Show!
Check the RAW segments; Grant, your HU host is on every month!
Episodes below to listen to while you, err, pretend to do something or other...

2020 Edition of Chris Scott's Adventure Motorcycling Handbook.

2020 Edition of Chris Scott's Adventure Motorcycling Handbook.

"Ultimate global guide for red-blooded bikers planning overseas exploration. Covers choice & preparation of best bike, shipping overseas, baggage design, riding techniques, travel health, visas, documentation, safety and useful addresses." Recommended. (Grant)



Ripcord Rescue Travel Insurance.

Ripcord Rescue Travel Insurance™ combines into a single integrated program the best evacuation and rescue with the premier travel insurance coverages designed for adventurers.

Led by special operations veterans, Stanford Medicine affiliated physicians, paramedics and other travel experts, Ripcord is perfect for adventure seekers, climbers, skiers, sports enthusiasts, hunters, international travelers, humanitarian efforts, expeditions and more.

Ripcord travel protection is now available for ALL nationalities, and travel is covered on motorcycles of all sizes!


 

What others say about HU...

"This site is the BIBLE for international bike travelers." Greg, Australia

"Thank you! The web site, The travels, The insight, The inspiration, Everything, just thanks." Colin, UK

"My friend and I are planning a trip from Singapore to England... We found (the HU) site invaluable as an aid to planning and have based a lot of our purchases (bikes, riding gear, etc.) on what we have learned from this site." Phil, Australia

"I for one always had an adventurous spirit, but you and Susan lit the fire for my trip and I'll be forever grateful for what you two do to inspire others to just do it." Brent, USA

"Your website is a mecca of valuable information and the (video) series is informative, entertaining, and inspiring!" Jennifer, Canada

"Your worldwide organisation and events are the Go To places to for all serious touring and aspiring touring bikers." Trevor, South Africa

"This is the answer to all my questions." Haydn, Australia

"Keep going the excellent work you are doing for Horizons Unlimited - I love it!" Thomas, Germany

Lots more comments here!



Five books by Graham Field!

Diaries of a compulsive traveller
by Graham Field
Book, eBook, Audiobook

"A compelling, honest, inspiring and entertaining writing style with a built-in feel-good factor" Get them NOW from the authors' website and Amazon.com, Amazon.ca, Amazon.co.uk.



Back Road Map Books and Backroad GPS Maps for all of Canada - a must have!

New to Horizons Unlimited?

New to motorcycle travelling? New to the HU site? Confused? Too many options? It's really very simple - just 4 easy steps!

Horizons Unlimited was founded in 1997 by Grant and Susan Johnson following their journey around the world on a BMW R80G/S.

Susan and Grant Johnson Read more about Grant & Susan's story

Membership - help keep us going!

Horizons Unlimited is not a big multi-national company, just two people who love motorcycle travel and have grown what started as a hobby in 1997 into a full time job (usually 8-10 hours per day and 7 days a week) and a labour of love. To keep it going and a roof over our heads, we run events all over the world with the help of volunteers; we sell inspirational and informative DVDs; we have a few selected advertisers; and we make a small amount from memberships.

You don't have to be a Member to come to an HU meeting, access the website, or ask questions on the HUBB. What you get for your membership contribution is our sincere gratitude, good karma and knowing that you're helping to keep the motorcycle travel dream alive. Contributing Members and Gold Members do get additional features on the HUBB. Here's a list of all the Member benefits on the HUBB.




All times are GMT +1. The time now is 01:52.