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After the big trip They came, went... and did it! But where are they now? DID that big trip change their lives? What to do with all the travel experience and how to use it? How to get a job afterwards! Was the trip the best - or worst - thing you ever did?
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Has this ever happened to you?

I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience.
It goes like this:
You have just returned from a long trip, say an Africa Overland and you run into an old friend (but it could as well be a relative or a co-worker or whatever).
The old friend:
- Hi, where have you been? Long time no see.
You:
- Oh, I just returned from a six (or whatever) month trip in Africa, drove all over the place (or something along that line).
At this point you would normally expect some sort of comment, even something as plain as "was if fun?" or "how did you like it?"
But no, a blank stare appears on your friends face, then he focuses his attention on the tip of his shoes in total silence for a few seconds and finally bursts in something completely unrelated like:
- Oh, by the way did you know that John has bought a new TV?[or anything just as silly].
To which you can only reply with some short smalltalk about TVs and walk away…
Isn't it odd?... Any clue?

Cheers!
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Some people don't get the travel bug, that's all.

They have a different focus in their life, like you do in yours. No better, no worse, just different.

That and travel changes a person - sometimes for the better, sometimes not. I've seen it go both ways.

Don't let it get to you. You might find your circle of friends evolving to those who are more like minded - at least that is what happened to me.


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I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience.
It goes like this:
You have just returned from a long trip, say an Africa Overland and you run into an old friend (but it could as well be a relative or a co-worker or whatever).
The old friend:
- Hi, where have you been? Long time no see.
You:
- Oh, I just returned from a six (or whatever) month trip in Africa, drove all over the place (or something along that line).
At this point you would normally expect some sort of comment, even something as plain as "was if fun?" or "how did you like it?"
But no, a blank stare appears on your friends face, then he focuses his attention on the tip of his shoes in total silence for a few seconds and finally bursts in something completely unrelated like:
- Oh, by the way did you know that John has bought a new TV?[or anything just as silly].
To which you can only reply with some short smalltalk about TVs and walk away…
Isn't it odd?... Any clue?

Cheers!
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Possibly terrified you'll pull out the holiday snaps? I worked with a bloke who built sea going canoes. Interesting way to travel but not something you want a 3 hour lecture on every time water or travel or camping gets mentioned. How people jump to the conclusion that you mentioning a bit of a bike trip will lead to offers of an invite to the book signing is one of the great mysteries of human interaction.

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Happend to us a lot, just back where we started from, I stoped to talk about it... Actually nobody wants to hear about it. I was warned b4 from some fellow travellers, they told me in Sydney "When you come home do not even try to talk about the trip, nobody will get it, they just do not understand it"...

Never mind, thats our memories and learnings for the next part of the trip...

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Hallo Sascha and Kerstin

Are you back in Europe (Deutschland) yet?

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I have worked, with short breaks in between, abroad with for the last 14 years. Normally deployed with the army in places like Afghanistan or Africa.
The same happens to me. People don't wanna talk about it because normally they don't have an opinion about the places you worked. Or they have an opinion but they know that you will be the wrong person to talk about it since you have been there and then their opinion could sound ridiculous...

That's why there are so many traveler meetings out there. You wanna talk about your trip and experience, there you'll find the people who share the same feelings and understanding since they have done a trip themselves or they are planning to do one.

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Hallo Sascha and Kerstin

Are you back in Europe (Deutschland) yet?

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Hi Keith,

"Keith1954 has exceeded their stored private messages quota and cannot accept further messages until they clear some space."

Can you PM me your email address? Got it somewhere on my travel Laptop but


OK found it... you have a mail...
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Happend to us a lot, just back where we started from, I stoped to talk about it... Actually nobody wants to hear about it. I was warned b4 from some fellow travellers, they told me in Sydney "When you come home do not even try to talk about the trip, nobody will get it, they just do not understand it"...

Never mind, thats our memories and learnings for the next part of the trip...

Cheers
Very true indeed but there is got to be something else, possibly, as someone else hinted, the hesitation to discuss unfamiliar things. But still...

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It happens before your trip. Nobody wants to know about your preperations and plans. A lot of people say, why do you want to travel? Whats wrong with "insert place you live" When you try to explain the reason you are going, their eyes glaze over. They just cannot understand.
It used to be the case in the UK, that the majority of people lived within 7 miles of were they were born / lived as a child.
How sad.
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I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience.
It goes like this:
You have just returned from a long trip, say an Africa Overland and you run into an old friend (but it could as well be a relative or a co-worker or whatever).
The old friend:
- Hi, where have you been? Long time no see.
You:
- Oh, I just returned from a six (or whatever) month trip in Africa, drove all over the place (or something along that line).
At this point you would normally expect some sort of comment, even something as plain as "was if fun?" or "how did you like it?"
But no, a blank stare appears on your friends face, then he focuses his attention on the tip of his shoes in total silence for a few seconds and finally bursts in something completely unrelated like:
- Oh, by the way did you know that John has bought a new TV?[or anything just as silly].
To which you can only reply with some short smalltalk about TVs and walk away…
Isn't it odd?... Any clue?

Cheers!
Very much so. Not that I wanted to brag or look important but felt that no one could really connect. In most cases now I don't talk about it, making a joke that I got lost or similar.

Having said that, there are people genuinely interested and want to know as much as possible, occasionally.

As my travel buddy said in Iran, "people do ask you, how your holiday was, so that they can tell you about theirs"

I'm now looking to close that chapter of my life as its starting to bore me (well the video edit is) and look to the new adventure.
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happens to me a lot too - but one day, I thought about it this way....

I don't want to listen to the person who goes to insert beach / bar resort every year with their family or friends & for the purpose of getting drunk / sitting on the beach and never seeing anything beyond the resort.
That person will never understand why I ride my bike & travel far and wide, just as I will never understand what's so good about their trip
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Just reach that point.

As my trips have got longer as time has gone on I have found people have become less interested. Strange? Long weekend trips were very popular with the civilians as were one week trips. Now at 1 month trips and no body seems to want to listen. It is just like they can't compute anything more than 2 weeks away from home. This years trip did it for me when my 2 Girls (18 & 21) "txting" each other during the photo showing event while they were suppose to be "interested" . My own kids in front of me !

So from now on I will only "engage" civilians that show any sense of adventure first.

But on the other side of the coin my wife has had a completely different reaction. When she mentions that she has been away for 4 weeks or more to where ever it was, people ask "oh, where did you fly to?" When she says "no where, it was on a motorbike with my old man" They nearly drop to the floor with amazement and can't get enough of it all.

This really hacks me off sometimes
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I think it's the same with many things in life...

People aren't generally interested or can comprehend someone else's adventure.

It's like when you see someone you haven't seen in a year or two. They're pushing around their new born baby.

For them it's been a 9 months adventure and a huge life changing experience. for me i'm like "Yeah,cute kid"

I'm genuinely interested and happy for them but I'll forget it even happened ten seconds after I've walked on.

As human beings, we're all pretty self centered if we're honest with ourselves.


I gave up talking about my travel adventures along time ago. No one is really bothered unless they have the same interest. That's why places like the HUBB are fantastic
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I think it's the same with many things in life...

People aren't generally interested or can comprehend someone else's adventure.

It's like when you see someone you haven't seen in a year or two. They're pushing around their new born baby.

For them it's been a 9 months adventure and I huge life changing experience. for me i'm like "Yeah,cute kid"

I'm genuinely interested and happy for them but I'll forget it even happened ten seconds after I've walked on.

As human beings, we're all pretty self centered if we're honest with ourselves.


I gave up talking about my travel adventures along time ago. No one is really bothered unless they have the same interest. That's why places like the HUBB are fantastic
You're charitable, Ted. I'm like "you stupid fcuker, you should have used a contraceptive".
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Right: it's not specifically travel which brings out this response: it's whatever people don't know how to relate to. It's natural, it's normal, and most of us do it too--but not so much in response to someone saying they spent the last year on a motorbike.

I look at it this way: I'm nothing special. What I spent the last year doing is no more or less adventurous than what everyone else does from time to time: raise kids; suffer through deaths of parents or partners; get seriously diseased or injured; return to university to re-train at mid-life; get married or divorced.... Sometimes I can relate, but sometimes I can't, don't want to, or am afraid of getting sucked in by someone who can only talk about their own wondrous life (or terrible frustrations) without any give and take.

And along those lines and for whatever it's worth: I've met overland riders whom I've got no interest in discussing this with, despite their own apparent sense of overwhelming importance. Others I could spend weeks with, just comparing notes and trading stories. Basically, I'm not that interesting and neither are you...to a lot of people. Become more interesting and you'll get fewer thousand mile stares in response to whatever you say. Better yet, become more interested in whatever THEY have to tell, and most will become in response more interested in you.

Having said that, I'll retire into my boring, stuffy, sedate and predictable corner of the world now.

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